@Michael the mental gymnastics are wild, indeed. Kilts are by definition, a type of skirt, and any man who says otherwise is letting his insecurities show.
I write this on one of the Kilt Forums on FB a while ago. This seems like a good place to also share it.
On Kilts, Skirts and Dresses:
I find the mental gymnastics some guys go through to justify our choice to wear skirts in public while they are still being hampered by the concept of gendered clothing enough to rule out a DRESS to be an interesting (and troubling) phenomenon.
Eddie Izzard was once quoted about her fashion sense (before she came out as Trans) as saying something like âWomen wear whatever they want, so do I.â Thatâs BRILLIANT.
These daily kilted guys are HALFWWAY to actual liberationâŠbut itâs still deeply ingrained in their heads: âwomensâ clothing is shameful. A Dress or a Skirt is âFeminineâ in their minds. To be associated with anything âfeminineâ endangers their fragile notion of what it means to be a âman.â Skirts are âfeminineâ too, but NOT âKilts.â
âOh no! Those are purely masculine! BRAVEHEART! (Though the real William Wallace was dead 300 years before anyone in Scotland wore anything resembling a kilt!) Kilts â Skirts! Kilts cannae be skirts because they were the clothing of Highland Warriors not their weakling women!â (LOL)
By definition, this crap thinking is toxic masculinity and itâs mostly keeping MEN back from fully enjoying life because theyâre all so worried that everyone else may think they are âwoman-like.â
Donât get me wrongâŠI suffer from this to some extent as well. While Iâm not much worried that Iâll be considered âwoman-likeâ or feminine⊠I donât wear skirts or dresses daily in public, mostly because I donât want the hassle of having to defend (letâs face it, ultimately physically) my choice from other men who would somehow feel threatened by what IâM wearing. The only difference is that Iâll always be honest and call a skirt a skirt and not pretend that there is ANY real difference at all between a kilt and a skirt or a dressâŠbeyond the semantics. (Proving that the entire notion of âthese clothes are for THOSE people, not USâ is entirely BS.)
This came up in our weekly drop-in, with responses from global warming to language shifts. What do you think it will take? Serious and "frivolous" suggestions welcome đ
This came up in our weekly drop-in, with responses from global warming to language shifts. What do you think it will take? Serious and "frivolous" suggestions welcome đ
This reason is inspired by one of our spotlights, Andy, when talking about skirts: I like the fact that wearing one brings your whole body more into contact with Air...
This reason is inspired by one of our spotlights, Andy, when talking about skirts: I like the fact that wearing one brings your whole body more into contact with Air...
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@Michael the mental gymnastics are wild, indeed. Kilts are by definition, a type of skirt, and any man who says otherwise is letting his insecurities show.
I see a fair bit of âpunching downâ from men who wear skirts, complaining that other men are wearing them in ways that are too âfeminineâ, risquĂ©, or weird. Itâs not helping anything, and it goes back to the quote âA personâs judgment says more about them than about you.â Skirted men might feel judgment from others, and then pass that judgment onto others who are further into challenging norms.
I write this on one of the Kilt Forums on FB a while ago. This seems like a good place to also share it.
On Kilts, Skirts and Dresses:
I find the mental gymnastics some guys go through to justify our choice to wear skirts in public while they are still being hampered by the concept of gendered clothing enough to rule out a DRESS to be an interesting (and troubling) phenomenon.
Eddie Izzard was once quoted about her fashion sense (before she came out as Trans) as saying something like âWomen wear whatever they want, so do I.â Thatâs BRILLIANT.
These daily kilted guys are HALFWWAY to actual liberationâŠbut itâs still deeply ingrained in their heads: âwomensâ clothing is shameful. A Dress or a Skirt is âFeminineâ in their minds. To be associated with anything âfeminineâ endangers their fragile notion of what it means to be a âman.â Skirts are âfeminineâ too, but NOT âKilts.â
âOh no! Those are purely masculine! BRAVEHEART! (Though the real William Wallace was dead 300 years before anyone in Scotland wore anything resembling a kilt!) Kilts â Skirts! Kilts cannae be skirts because they were the clothing of Highland Warriors not their weakling women!â (LOL)
By definition, this crap thinking is toxic masculinity and itâs mostly keeping MEN back from fully enjoying life because theyâre all so worried that everyone else may think they are âwoman-like.â
Donât get me wrongâŠI suffer from this to some extent as well. While Iâm not much worried that Iâll be considered âwoman-likeâ or feminine⊠I donât wear skirts or dresses daily in public, mostly because I donât want the hassle of having to defend (letâs face it, ultimately physically) my choice from other men who would somehow feel threatened by what IâM wearing. The only difference is that Iâll always be honest and call a skirt a skirt and not pretend that there is ANY real difference at all between a kilt and a skirt or a dressâŠbeyond the semantics. (Proving that the entire notion of âthese clothes are for THOSE people, not USâ is entirely BS.)
Brilliant and funny!